2023: The year of me

Final night time, for the third Wednesday in a row, I ventured to the Whiteside Theater in downtown Corvallis to look at an outdated film. Two weeks in the past, it was Nationwide Lampoon’s Christmas Trip. Final week, it was It is a Great Life. And yesterday was Star Wars. The place was packed! So enjoyable to look at a favourite movie in an outdated theater with a few hundred different followers.

I’ve additionally been watching many motion pictures at dwelling currently. I lastly have the time. In response to Letterboxd, I’ve seen seventeen movies in December. I watched 9 in November. I get pleasure from exploring the nooks and crannies of cinema. (I extremely suggest Letterboxd, by the best way. I have been utilizing it to log my movie watching for 2 years, and I can now not think about not utilizing it.)

My days have been busy, too.

Within the mornings, as at all times, I stroll the canine. Recently, although, we have been taking longer walks: 90 minutes, two hours. A part of it’s because I’ve embarked upon a loopy mission to map each Little Free Library and farmstand on the town [my map]. However a bigger half is as a result of I’m, finally, prioritizing health once more.

A few of you could recall that I misplaced forty kilos throughout COVID. I used to be pleased with my health going into 2021, however then I acquired sidetracked by promoting a home, shopping for a home, and a really shitty 2022. I fell into my dangerous behavior of stress consuming. I did not do any train. I gained fifty kilos — every part I would misplaced in 2020 and extra. Nicely, for the previous three weeks I have been each exercising and consuming proper. I am again on the fitness center. In January, I am becoming a member of some buddies for a 30-day yoga problem.

To make it simpler to make wholesome selections with meals, I’ve slowly been re-vamping our kitchen. We have lived on this home for fifteen months now, so we’ve got a greater concept of the place totally different kitchen instruments ought to reside. Plus, after greater than a decade with Kim, I’ve determined it is time to ditch a few of our outdated kitchen stuff (a few of which we have owned for the reason that Nineteen Nineties!) and improve to raised instruments. I now personal three good knives, and so they’re a pleasure to make use of.

In the meantime, after eighteen months of speaking about artwork, I’ve begun to dabble in it. Not a lot, however some. Earlier this month, I began a each day artwork journal. I am enjoying with pens and drawing types. I purchased an inexpensive watercolor set and am having enjoyable enjoying with that. Once I’m not watching motion pictures, I am usually watching artwork instruction on YouTube.

Plus, I am doing different enjoyable stuff. I am studying books and comics. I am spending extra time with buddies — each on Zoom and in Actual Life.

In brief, December has been my greatest month in a very long time. I’ve been main a values-driven life and it exhibits. I can really feel it. The folks round me can really feel it to.

However discover what’s not on that listing. What am I not doing? Writing about cash. Since my mom died in early October, I have been on a deliberate three-month sabbatical. It is clear that I wanted it. It is also clear that I most likely want extra time to myself. Like all of 2023.

I discussed earlier this month that I wish to make 2023 the 12 months of J.D. And it is true. That is precisely what I will do. I will prioritize doing what I need once I need it. I do not imply this in some hedonistic manner. I imply it in a “pursuing that which fulfills me” manner. Does that make sense?

My primary precedence for the approaching yr is to give attention to health. Kim and I are doing this collectively for the primary time since we met at Crossfit, and it feels superior to be on the identical web page. It is a lot simpler to do that as a staff. Together with train and well being consuming, I am additionally addressing some lingering well being points: blood strain, sleep apnea, and so on.

My quantity two precedence for 2023 is to proceed constructing (and re-building) friendships right here in Corvallis. Though I determine as an introvert, it is clear that I am not. I want social interplay, and I have never been getting sufficient of it. I am engaged on it.

My third precedence for the subsequent twelve months is to dive into artwork. I’ve struggled to begin for a few causes.

• First, I do not know the place to begin. I am a whole novice. I’ve by no means completed something creative in my life. (Nicely, not fully true. In junior excessive, a buddy and I used to attract our personal comedian books, however that was child stuff.)
• Second, I do not know what sort of artwork to pursue. Do I wish to draw? Do I wish to paint? One thing else fully?

This month, I’ve stopped fascinated about these kinds of questions and as a substitute begun doing no matter I need with pens and paint. The one manner to determine the place to go is to strive issues. Plus, I am being attentive to what excites me. Comics excite me, clearly, and at all times have. However I am additionally realizing that I like what I would name “mid-century spot illustration” type: heavy brush strokes, sort of cartoony.

A closing precedence is to determine which tasks to pursue round the home. Kim and I moved right here on the finish of August 2021. We love Corvallis, and we all know that is the place we wish to reside. Our home is completely tremendous, however…it isn’t excellent. (No home ever is.) After “losing” $150,000+ making adjustments to our final home then shifting after 4 years, I am extra cautious right here. If we keep, I am prepared to spend cash and energy to enhance issues. But when we do not, I do not wish to expend the assets.

So, Kim and I must decide: Will we decide to staying at this place for, say, a decade or so? Or will we agree that it is solely a brief place? If we are going to remain, then I’ve a few tasks I wish to deal with nearly instantly. I need transform a toilet — possibly two. And I wish to give the again yard a serious overhaul. (The “bones” of the yard are stable, however the area is overgrown with ferns and weeds after practically a decade of neglect.)

So, these are my plans for 2023. Once more, discover how Get Wealthy Slowly is just not on this listing.

I can not determine what to do about Get Wealthy Slowly. What position does it play in my life? Does it play a job in my life?

That is half of a bigger query about what position I need the web (and computer systems themselves, actually) to play in my life. Over the previous few years, it is turn out to be clear that for me (as with many others, I do know) the web supplies simply as many issues because it does options. And, in reality, I think that my latest struggles with psychological well being have been exacerbated by the web. Maybe even induced by the web.

One possibility is to easily reduce the twine utterly and stroll away. Promote the location. Surrender writing about cash perpetually. Think about it a part of my life and transfer on. There are loads of upsides to this selection, I am going to admit. However I am not satisfied it is the most suitable choice. What if I find yourself regretting the choice? What if I do determine I need a spot to speak about cash once more?

In addition to, there are two massive causes I wish to hold Get Wealthy Slowly (or, maybe, Cash Boss in its stead). For one, I actually do wish to create an internet encyclopedia of non-public finance, a spot uncluttered by adverts and analytics and bullshit, a spot the place folks can get dependable, unbiased cash data. Second, and maybe extra importantly, I am a author. I categorical myself by phrases. I get pleasure from having an outlet to share what I am feeling. Similar to this!

So, I equivocate.

I travel.

I feel and I feel and I take into consideration the very best course to take.

However you recognize what? It isn’t a call I’ve to make proper now. Proper now, the very best factor is to easily do what I have been doing. It appears to be working. December has been all about me and my wants, and that is what 2023 will probably be too.

Within the coming yr, I will give attention to health. I will proceed exploring artwork and watching motion pictures. I am going to hang around with buddies. In the end, I will journey once more. (I have already got plans to go to Colorado, Mexico, Greece, Ecuador, and extra!) I will spend time with Kim and our beasts. I will learn. I will prepare dinner.

And infrequently — for now, not less than — I am going to drop by Get Wealthy Slowly to share what I have been considering and doing.

Joyful holidays, everybody. I am going to see you subsequent yr.